Rarely have we heard a call to the police from a stalker, describing events just before killing his victim, as reported on the news in the Zimmerman-Trayvon Martin case. It was a first in my memory.

A 28-year old neighborhood watchman, describing a situation as it happened, following a 17 year old in his neighborhood on a cold rainy Florida night, then hearing cries for “help” just before the shot was fired that killed the 17 year old, was an eerie recording of events, particularly when the person on the other end of the phone advised Zimmerman to stop following the young man.

This event followed by a lot of publicity relative to the case and rightly so. A horrible story, which should not have happened, except for the stubborn desire of one human being carrying a gun to stalk another, just walking along the street. Then he shot him, apparently.

Several weeks later arrested and charged, he appeared in court this week, and spoke to the parents of Trayvon, saying “I am sorry for the loss of your son.”

This has been charactorized in the news media as an apology. Not an apology for murdering their son but an apology for their loss.

There was a time in my life when I had trouble with the simple words “I’m sorry” from anyone who had said or done something offensive. I seemed to shudder when I heard those words, and set out to try to understand what it was about those two words that bothered me.

I found my answer in the twelve-step program of AA. I personally never belonged to AA, however had several friends who did, and had experienced alcoholism in my family. As I talked to friends about the program, I found it so fascinating that I read the Blue Book and everything I could find about alcoholism and the 12-step program. A self-help program so good that many other self-help programs have been designed from that 12-step program. Very simple steps to guide one through recovery not only from a drinking problem, but teaches how to deal with abuse and mistreatment of others in past behaviors.

Nowhere in that 12 step program does it suggest one apologize for wrong doings. Nowhere does it even hint one say I’m sorry for anything they have done. Instead it tells the reader to “make amends” wherever possible for any wrong doing. Made great sense to me the first time I read it and from that day forward, if any one said, “I’m sorry” for anything, my stock response was, “What does that have to do with anything?”

In this connection, when I heard on the news that George Zimmerman had said in court to the parents of Trayvon, “I’m sorry for your loss,” I reflexively jumped up and yelled at the TV, “What does that have to do with anything?” Obviously nothing.

I’m a great believer in the Universal Law of the Circle, i.e., everything that goes around comes around sooner or later, plus understanding self-preservation is the first law. However, prolonging admissions of guilt in wrong doing gathers momentum, and compounds when the time comes t “make amends,” which will sooner or later because there are no exceptions to the Law of the Circle.

Don’t misunderstand me, it’s not my lot to advise Mr. Zimmerman. Mine is simply an observation, as I see his vacant look and hear his vacant words. And just amazed over how the news media takes his words and runs with it, calling it and apology, as if it carried some significant meaning. Conversely, perhaps the significance is Mr. Zimmerman just lying , with no remorse, over his decision to stalk and kill, to save his own hide.

Then when I heard him say he did not know how old his victim was, but thought he was a bit younger than he was, again I wanted to say “What does that have to do with anything?”

The majority in this nation feel badly over the loss the parents have suffered over the killing of their son. I personally cannot think of anything worse than the loss of a child. Killing is stealing. It’s stealing the life of another, and a child knows that’s wrong.

Admittedly all of us have a Right to self-defense, but in this case the recorded conversation out of the mouth of the perpetrator admits he was stalking and was advised to stop but apparently did not.

To appear in court and utter the words, “I’m sorry over your loss” comes across as blantantly disingenuous, and empty of any remorse. Nor of any intention of amends, which begins by speaking the truth.

It’s no wonder this nation is outraged over the killing of Trayvon Martin, and should be. I’m personally outraged over the manner in which the media is reporting the event.



Email: annecleveland@bellsouth.net

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